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Your Gay Wedding Ceremony

Congratulations, you’re getting married. Since the wall fell down, I’ve been seeing a lot of camps on this subject. The main ones being:

Whatever your reasons—and they are most certainly as individual as you and your partner are—your wedding ceremony isn’t about a landmark court decision. OK, it’s not entirely about a landmark court decisions. It’s about you, your partner, and your love. Let your ceremony reflect that.

Gay Wedding Ceremony Ideas

Make it special. Any type of ceremony can be special from the courthouse to the church to the cliff-side sunset. The sky’s the limit (skydiving vows?). Pick any setting that has meaning to you.

• You bonded over café lattes every Saturday morning. Rent out your local coffee shop for an evening.
• You met in a running club. Pick a spot on your favorite run and wear your sneakers to the ceremony.
• You’ve been together forever and have been fighting for marriage rights for the LGBT community for just as long. Get married after Pride.

The ceremony can be as short and sweet or long and lovely as you like. Traditional ideas include:

• Courthouse with a Justice of the Peace and a party afterwards at your home
• Church ceremony with a religious leader, an aisle to walk down, and Pachelbel’s Canon
• Inside venue with an officiant of your choice and a soloist singing “At Last”
• Outside location with a friend who is ordained and a guitarist playing a Beatles song

Mix and match. But do something you’re comfortable with. Your marriage is starting with this event, let it be about you and your partner.

Gay Wedding Ceremony Vows

Speak from the heart. Say the things you want to say to your partner in front of the people you love. It’s that simple. Take a cue from every romantic movie with a wedding and write about your love on a notecard then decide not to use it as you say the things you want to say to the person you’ll spend the rest of your life with.

Let someone else speak from the heart. Coming up with vows should be easy enough, unless you’re intensely private people. There’s a little showmanship involved in saying your vows. If you have stage fright, then pick an officiant who knows you and who can craft vows that will suit you both. There’s always someone who’s willing to perform.

Gay Wedding Ceremony Choices

To all of you affianced, we’re here to help you make smart choices whether you’re:

Check out our directory of LGBTQ / LGBT community vendors for someone who can meet your needs. And if you know of any LGBTQ-owned or LGBTQ-friendly wedding vendors, please let us know and we’ll try to get them added to our directory.