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New Video Series Explores Reality of LGBT Parents
If you’re new LGBT parents–or if you’re soon planning to be–you may have more than a few unanswered questions about navigating life as same-sex parents. While there’s a growing number of resources geared toward helping LGBT parents, one of the best we’ve come across recently is a video series created by The Next Family, in which Brandy Black and her wife Susan Howard discuss what they call “hot topics” for LGBT parents, with videos tackling everything from second-parent adoption to the ways parenting can change a relationship.
While the videos contain a wealth of information for any LGBT parent, we’ve picked out some of our favorite pieces of advice and topics. These videos have only been going for a few months, so there are sure to be more helpful and interesting videos coming from this series:
LGBT Parents: Picking a Donor
In their video about picking a donor, the two moms don’t shy away from the potential awkwardness that comes with picking a donor, from the initial decision between choosing an anonymous donor or a friend to the some of the unexpected emotions that come with using a donor: “I felt a certain amount of shame around that,” Black says. “Like, ‘God this feels so unnatural. What are we doing?’ and ‘Is it right what we are doing?’”
LGBT Parents: Second Parent Adoption
Although there’s been a lot of progress made recently in allowing both LGBT parents to be listed on a child’s birth certificate, the two moms explore the long, invasive process of second child adoption, including a social worker visit and hearing before a judge: “I think it was really insulting to me that they were asking her these questions and me these questions, and I had had this child and we had together made this decision together to have this child.”
LGBT Parents: Choosing a School
Choosing a school and dealing with teachers can potentially be difficult for LGBT parents: will your kids be treated differently? Will educators and administrators respect your family situation? How important is it to send your kids to a school where there are more LGBT families? “As long as the teachers, and other parents, and the kids are familiar with your family, and you have made them comfortable with your family, it really doesn’t make any difference to children.”
LGBT Parents: What Do Your Kids Call You?
Many LGBT parents struggle when it comes to what their kids should call them: calling both parents “mom” or “dad” is potentially confusing, so many parents want to introduce alternatives that often, as in the case of Black and Howard, don’t stick. This topic is also briefly touched upon in the two moms’ video about choosing a school, but they talk more about why it’s important for teachers to know what their children call them to avoid confusion.
LGBT Parents: Relationships & Parenting
“Not at all. Everything is exactly the same,” Brandy Black jokes at the start of the two moms’ video about relationships changing when a couple has a child. This is one of the most insightful videos in the series, touching on how LGBT parents’ lives are both impacted by parenting, the importance of making time for one another when a baby needs the majority of your attention, and the differing experiences of a mom who carried a baby and the one who didn’t.
There’s a lot more in these videos than we’ve mentioned here, and the two moms tackle important subjects in a way that’s friendly, approachable, and open without shying away from some difficult topics. We’re already looking forward to seeing more of these videos, and we hope new LGBT parents and couples who are preparing to make the leap into starting families will check them out!
Did you learn anything new or unexpected from these videos? Are there topics you’d like to see the two moms discuss? Let us know!