You're standing in front of your Family and Friends prepared to make your dreams of a lifetime come true. It's at that moment that you are grateful that you have a professional guiding your ceremony. The Supreme Court has finally ruled upon this issue. Now is the time to plan your perfect LGBT Wedding. I have been performing Commitment Ceremonies since the beginning, and I am so pleased this has opened up for everyone to marry the one they Love. Contact Reverend Jacqui Weiks, Your LGBT Wedding Officiant
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6 Surprising Benefits of Living Together
If you’re thinking about moving in with your partner, you’re certainly not alone. In fact, according to recent surveys, living with someone is on the rise–doubling since the 1990s–even as marriage rates flatten or decline. There are many possible reason for this, ranging from concerns about commitment in a time when divorce rates remain high to the widespread perception that marriage has few benefits over simply living together.
Whatever your reasons are for moving in together, there are a number of benefits that come from living together. While many of these benefits overlap with those experienced by married couples, there are also many surprising aspects of living together that drive LGBT couples to make the leap.
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Six Benefits of Living Together:
1 More Economic Stability
Recent studies have shown that LGBT couples who live together tend to experience significant economic gains–even more gains, in fact, than unmarried heterosexual couples living together. There are several possible reasons for this, including the fact that LGBT couples living together tend to have higher levels of education, which corresponds with higher household income in general.
2 Lower Rates of Depression
Another interesting recent finding indicates that gay and bisexual men who live with a male partner tend to have much lower rates of depression. Since gay and bisexual men tend to have much higher rates of depression than the general population, this is a somewhat surprising study: it’s possible that having someone nearby with similar experiences to your own can help alleviate feelings of isolation and loneliness.
3 Higher Self-Esteem
The mental and emotional benefits of cohabitation don’t end with reduced depression, however: couples living together also report higher levels of self esteem than even married couples! There could be many explanations for this, but one that’s particularly interesting is the balance between security and autonomy that living together can bring. LGBT couples living together aren’t as burdened with the expectations that come with being married.
4 Easier Meal Planning
No one likes cooking for one. Moving in together means you’ll have someone to cook for (or someone cooking for you), which means no more lonely meals and piles of leftovers! Plus, cooking for two means you may be more likely to try out dishes or meals that might be too involved or complicated to cook for just yourself. It’s also hard to deny that splitting the grocery bill–and shopping trips–can help you feel more financially stable and less stressed.
5 Division of Labor
When you live on your own, every responsibility is your own, from cleaning and taking on household projects to caring for children and pets. LGBT couples living together can divide responsibilities, which can be a major mood booster and stress reducer. Of course, the counterpoint to this benefit is that someone still has to do the chores, and you may discover that you and your partner both hate the same tasks!
6 Making a Place That’s Really Yours
Maybe the greatest benefit of living together is the opportunity to make a space that’s truly yours and your partner’s. Combining your interests and tastes to create a space that feels like home strengthens your relationship and reveals aspects of your partner that you never would have seen living apart. And without the expectations placed on a married household, you can both create spaces for your unique interests and maintain your sense of independence.
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There is one surprising side-note when it comes to LGBT couples living together: the Census Bureau has no idea how prevalent unmarried LGBT couples living together really is. Until recently, the way the Census was formulated meant that unmarried LGBT couples living together were not accurately counted or recognized.
As the methods of measuring and recording the lives of LGBT couples improve, you can bet that we’ll see the rates of LGBT cohabitation rise. And why shouldn’t they, since there are so many clear benefits to moving in together? What are your thoughts about living together? Let us know!