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Navigating LGBT Dating
If you’ve been out of the dating scene for awhile and suddenly find yourself navigating the brave new world of LGBT dating, don’t be surprised if you find yourself a little overwhelmed. Between the explosion of dating apps, the proliferation of dating sites, and opportunities to connect with someone offline, it’s hard to know where to start when you’re trying to find a match.
In some ways, finding the best method to meet potential partners is more difficult than actually going on that first date. Luckily, we’ve combed through reviews to find the best LGBT dating sites and apps, whether you’re looking for a fling or a long-term commitment. These apps and sites can be great starting points, whether you’re looking to scope out the scene or find a date for this weekend.
LGBT Dating Apps
Even people outside of the LGBT dating scene are familiar with Grindr, the app that connects men to casual hookups nearby. The app has gotten a lot of press, both positive and negative (especially since it seems to be the go-to gay dating app for so many anti-gay public officials), but users looking for more than a hookup may have better luck on some of the app’s competitors.
- Her: Formerly known as Dattch, this dating app for lesbians and bisexual women has some excellent features, including verified profiles and the ability for users to upload unlimited photos. Users can also read lesbian-focused articles within the app, making this much more versatile than other dating apps.
- Scruff: This dating app has recently been gaining ground on Grindr, mainly because it goes beyond its competitor’s status as a “hookup app.” Scruff allows gay men to connect based on mutual interests, and also features functionality for users to promote their businesses. Plus, it’s the first app to integrate location-based services to warn travelers about local laws regarding gay relationships.
- OkCupid: Since its first incarnation as a traditional dating site, OkCupid has consistently been an excellent way to meet and network with potential dates. The app doesn’t just focus on gay or lesbian dating, but does have some awesome features like the ability to hide profiles from straight users and the ability to choose from 22 gender identities and 12 sexual orientations.
There are many more apps out there, including Hornet (specifically for gay men) and Tinder, but these three are excellent starting points for dipping your toe into the wide world of dating apps. Using these apps, you may find some functions you love, or you might find you’re looking for something a little bit more specific when it comes to app-based dating.
Dating Websites (LGBT or Otherwise)
For some users, traditional dating websites are the way to go: unlike their app counterparts, websites tend to be subscription-based, which weeds out a lot of users who may not be the best matches. Another benefit: unlike LGBT dating apps, many websites focus on compatibility, rather than starting out with a photo.
- Chemistry: Chances are, you’ve seen some ads for Chemistry and already know their angle: personality tests match users with the most compatible users, with most people searching for a serious relationship. What you may not know is that the site has almost a million LGBT users, with more joining every day. Chemistry isn’t cheap (a six-month subscription costs $160), but the price does mean you’ll meet people who are as serious about their search as you are.
- Find Femmes: A recent addition to the online dating ecosystem, Find Femmes caters to lesbian and bisexual women with traditionally feminine gender presentations. The site’s founders have spoken about the difficulties of being “recognized, and believed, as being gay” when you don’t fit expectations, and hope the site will create a virtual community for femme lesbians and bisexual women.
- Compatible Partners: Another site that focuses on singles looking for long-term relationships, Compatible partners differs from its competitors because it’s specifically focused on gay and lesbian dating. The site was launched by eHarmony in 2009, and uses that site’s communication systems and matching processes. Keep in mind, however, that the site is much more expensive than many other dating sites.
While new LGBT dating websites are still launching fairly often, there has definitely been a turn in the last few years towards apps, which makes sense: many users prefer the convenience of being able to view profiles and send messages on the go, and location-based matching has revolutionized online dating.
LGBT Dating In Real Life
Even in the digital age, some people just don’t want to deal with the hassle of connecting with other singles online. From lesbians who find themselves inundated with messages from men who are sure they “just haven’t met the right man yet” to trans men and women who worry (rightfully) that online dating exposes them to danger from bigots, it’s undeniable that online dating can be a minefield for LGBT singles. While it’s hard to know what the LGBT dating scene looks like in every city, it’s often best to look to centers of LGBT social life in your area to find singles with similar interests.
Be sure to look for a future Smart Gay Life article focusing on LGBT dating outside of apps and websites, and in the meantime, let us know if you’ve had any luck with LGBT online dating!