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Reclaiming Queer: Language & The LGBT Community
Navigating terminology can be a tricky balance for anyone becoming active in the LGBT community: when should we use gender-neutral pronouns? Are “transvestite” and “transsexual” still acceptable terms? What’s the LGBT community’s stance on “queer”? As a wider array of identities and sexualities are brought into the LGBT community, it may be helpful to re-examine the language we use, making sure that terms are inclusive and reflect changing sensibilities.
Using Queer in The LGBT Community
One of the most widely-used and heard terms might also be one of the most controversial. “Queer” was used as a pejorative as early as the 19th century, and only started to be reclaimed by the LGBT community in the late 1980s, so it’s fair to say the term comes with a lot of historical baggage.
The reclamation of “queer” was spearheaded by radical gay-rights groups, but since then it’s moved toward the mainstream as an umbrella term for anyone who doesn’t identify as heterosexual and cisgender (a term for someone whose gender identity conforms to their biological sex). So, some folks that are bisexual, asexual, gender fluid, or choose not to specifically identify, embrace the term queer.
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Maybe it’s this flexibility that makes “queer” such a popular term, especially among younger members of the LGBT community. It’s a term that allows for a lot of fluidity, which can be helpful for someone who is becoming more aware of their sexuality and gender identity. While some members of the LGBT community still find the term offensive because of its history as a negative term, others support the term because of its inclusivity.
The Evolving Language of Trans People in the LGBT Community
Transgender terminology has had a long and shifting history. Did you know that even before Europeans came to the country, some Native American tribes recognized a third gender identity? In these tribes, this identity is currently referred to as “two-spirited,” and there are trans people through early American history who were known for “living as” a member of the opposite gender. Well into the 20th century, “transvestite” and “transsexual” were used to describe what we would now call transgendered people.
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Luckily, trans visibility has moved the conversation – and language – forward, with the wider culture beginning to understand and recognize transgendered people. Famous trans women like Laverne Cox and Caitlin Jenner have done a lot to bring trans issues into the spotlight and educate the public. There’s still a long way to go, with a troubling amount of violence against trans women still occurring every year, but public discussions on representing and protecting transgendered people in the LGBT community has started to yield some positive results.
Making a Place in the LGBT Community for Gender-Neutrality
Non-binary, genderqueer, gender-neutral – even if we’re finally learning how to talk about trans people, it’s going to take more time for society to learn how to refer to non-gender conforming people. A lot of the blame might fall on pronouns: most people grow up knowing “him” and “her” or “she” and “he.” But what about “ze,” or the using “they” as a singular pronoun? It’s less intuitive, but maybe that’s only because we’ve been conditioned to using gendered pronouns. Unfortunately, to a lot of people the idea is still completely foreign.
At their core, gender-neutral pronouns speak to deeply-rooted issues of identification, inclusivity, and gender dynamics. If someone prefers a gender-neutral pronoun and the person they’re talking to keeps using “him” or “her,” the gender-neutral person is going to feel like their personal preferences are being intentionally ignored in favor of gendered pronouns, and this can lead to feeling ostracized from the conversation.
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How The LGBT Community Can Watch Its Language
No one likes to feel like the words they use are being policed, but at the same time, it’s important for the LGBT community to embrace evolving ideas of sexual and gender fluidity to create safe, inclusive spaces for those who don’t fall completely into traditional definitions. It may sound like a lot of work, but the end result is wider acceptance and equality. Remember: it wasn’t long ago that the word “transgender” didn’t exist. A lot of progress has been made through open dialogue and sharing our knowledge, and talking about these issues will continue to enrich the LGBT community.