You're standing in front of your Family and Friends prepared to make your dreams of a lifetime come true. It's at that moment that you are grateful that you have a professional guiding your ceremony. The Supreme Court has finally ruled upon this issue. Now is the time to plan your perfect LGBT Wedding. I have been performing Commitment Ceremonies since the beginning, and I am so pleased this has opened up for everyone to marry the one they Love. Contact Reverend Jacqui Weiks, Your LGBT Wedding Officiant
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Gay Marriage Counseling Before the Ceremony
Gay marriage counseling isn’t just for relationships in trouble: for many couples, counseling is an important step in preparing for a life together, providing opportunities for honest discussions about topics that might never be breached in daily conversation. Gay marriage counseling builds communication skills, intimacy, and understanding, and can have more long-term benefits for a marriage than most people might expect. For some couples, gay marriage counseling provides a chance to discuss issues like living wills, values, and attitudes toward raising children, rough patches that may occur, and goals for the success of your marriage.
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Many therapists and religious figures agree that premarital counseling can be one of the best decisions a couple makes on their way to “I do,” and with more weddings taking place than ever thanks to the Supreme Court’s decision, gay marriage counseling can be an important and healthy step in many relationships.
Religious Gay Marriage Counseling
For couples getting married in a church or temple, it’s pretty common to meet with the officiant prior to the ceremony for premarital counseling. In most cases, a minister or rabbi will require an engaged couple to come in for several sessions prior to the wedding. The officiant might assign “homework,” like asking the couple to list their values or expectations, and sessions can range from informal conversations to structured discussions. Some ministers even give the couple a personality test to learn more about compatibility and potential disagreements! Some topics you might expect at religious gay marriage counseling include:
- Family: If you plan to raise children, how involved will they be with the church or temple? What values will you instill in them?
- Monogamy: What are your attitudes towards monogamy, and what will you do if one of you is unfaithful?
- Crisis: How do you plan to handle an impasse in your marriage? Have you talked about divorce if counseling is not effective?
These can all be imposing topics to bring up leading to the big day, and many couples have enough stress to deal with before they start talking about divorce or starting a family. One of the benefits of gay marriage counseling is that you and your partner can talk about these issues in advance, rather than facing them unprepared years down the line.
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Secular Gay Marriage Counseling
You don’t have to be religious to benefit from gay marriage counseling: many couples enter traditional couples counseling leading up to marriage, and having the opportunity to talk about relationship problems with a neutral mediator can help resolve issues before they become major rifts in a relationship. When meeting with a counselor, it’s important to be open to what your partner has to say, and engage in dialogue without judging. This way, you can discuss important topics like:
- Cold feet: Fears, anxiety, and frustrations either of you are feeling before entering a lifelong commitment.
- Intimacy issues: You may be experiencing concerns, including sexual problems or ways you feel you can both communicate better as a couple.
- Money issues: wedding are expensive, and they can lead to arguments about money management, long-term planning, and ensuring that you’re both able to live the way you want to.
No one likes to fight with their partner, and many couples avoid gay marriage counseling because they think it will lead to arguments or long-term hostility. In reality, working through these types of issues together can form stronger bonds and a foundation for a successful marriage.
Gay Marriage Counseling: Long-Term Benefits
Several studies have suggested that premarital counseling can lead to lower divorce rates. While these studies are far from conclusive, it’s not surprising to learn that couples who have an easier time communicating their needs and wants, and finding healthy ways to deal with anger or frustration, are able to weather the storms that typically derail a marriage.
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It’s important to remember, however, that gay marriage counseling isn’t a means to an end: it’s a foundation for you and your partner to build on. All marriages have their issues, but by building a relationship on communication, trust, and openness, you and your partner can begin the next phase of your lives confidently, knowing that gay marriage counseling can give you the tools to handle whatever comes.