• Login
    Forgot Password?
  • Home
  • Welcome
  • Directory
  • Blog
  • Contact

After Gay Marriage, Best Husbands & Wives

Home Wedding After Gay Marriage, Best Husbands & Wives

Categories

  • Business
  • Community
  • Culture
  • Health
  • Home
  • LGBT Rights
  • Life & Style
  • Parents
  • Retirement
  • Sports
  • Travel
  • Wedding
  • Youth

Featured

Green Light Retrofit
Helping reduce energy costs improve profitability with environmental responsibility...
Read More

Recently Added

Green Light Retrofit
Helping reduce energy costs improve profitability with environmental responsibility...
Read More
Your Perfect Wedding, wedding officiant
Your Perfect Gay Ceremony
You're standing in front of your Family and Friends prepared to make your dreams of a lifetime come true. It's at that moment that you are grateful that you have a professional guiding your ceremony. The Supreme Court has finally ruled upon this issue. Now is the time to plan your perfect LGBT Wedding. I have been performing Commitment Ceremonies since the beginning, and I am so pleased this has opened up for everyone to marry the one they Love. Contact Reverend Jacqui Weiks, Your LGBT Wedding Officiant
Read More
Garden of Grace United Church of Christ
Garden of Grace United...
We are an open and affirming, multi-racial and multi-cultural, assessable to all, peace and justice oriented body of faith. We go into the community and God's disciples. Grounded by the teachings of Jesus the Christ, we uplift Christ's goodness, create spiritual community, and care for God's people and God's world. Dynamic hope, incredible compassion, extravagant hospitality, and radical love are our core values.
Read More

Latest Posts

Daniel Pillai, He/She Project
Daniel Pillai’s He...

Daniel Pillai’s He/She Project Growing up in a traditional south Asian community in Canada, Daniel Pillai didn’t quite fit in. “There was an inherent non-acceptance to who I was and how I acted,” he says. “I stuck out like a sore thumb.” Pillai spent his childhood in what he calls a “conservative atmosphere,” surrounded by […]

Read More
addiction recovery treatment
Addiction Treatment an...

Addiction Treatment and the Recovery Process By Matt Gonzales, writer and researcher for DrugRehab.com Drug addiction is a chronic disease that affects your physical and mental health, job status and relationships. Once you’re hooked on a drug, your whole life revolves around it. Substance use disorders are common in the United States. Heroin use in […]

Read More
Orlando shooting victims bills to be forgiven
Who Pays After the Dev...

Who pays after the devastating Orlando shooting? After a tragedy, who pays the bill? There has been a lot of talk lately about medical costs and medical debt, even as the Affordable Care Act helps more Americans get the treatment they need without taking on crippling debt. Even with more people covered, medical treatment is […]

Read More
bisexual, bisexuality
Making a Strong Legal ...

Making a Legal Case for Bisexuality Bisexuality is widely misunderstood. Bisexuals are often dismissed or used as a punchline by the straight community and sidelined in conversations about LGBT rights and equality, often while experiencing many of the same struggles and setbacks as the rest of the queer community. And for some–like Ray Fuller, a […]

Read More
photo by Alexander Hassenstein / Getty | Olympic Coverage Criticized
Is Olympic Coverage Cr...

Olympic Coverage Criticized as Homophobic? One of the most memorable moments of the 2016 Summer Olympics in Rio didn’t occur during an event. Instead, just after the women’s rugby event on Monday night, Brazil’s Isadora Cerullo’s partner, Marjorie Enya, surprised her with a proposal. As reported by CNN, Enya said in her emotional speech “I […]

Read More
after gay marriage

After Gay Marriage, Be a Better Husband or Wife

You said “I do,” and that means you’re in a relationship for better or for worse. But how do you make sure that your marriage has more “better” moments than “worse”? While there are plenty of resources out there that can tell you how to be a better spouse, most of those are aimed squarely at a straight audience, meaning they’re loaded with traditional gender roles and expectations. But what does “being a good husband” mean when you’re both husbands? Are there different ways to be a “good wife” in the context of gay marriage?

5 Ways for Success After Your Gay Marriage

Luckily, there are plenty of ways you can work on being a better husband or wife without leaning on traditional roles and expectations. While these ideas aren’t cure-alls for the rough patches that come up in any relationship, they can help build a strong foundation of communication, support, and compassion after gay marriage:

1 Focus on the Positive

So your husband left a pile of dirty clothes on the floor–again. Before you turn a small annoyance into a fight, take a moment to step back and consider the positive traits that you love about your spouse. While you might think of this as “picking your battles,” it’s also an exercise in appreciation and realizing that the positives–love, support, caring–far outweigh the minor hiccups. After gay marriage, focus on the positive.

2 Balance Your Needs and Theirs

The saying that marriage is a compromise may be a cliché at this point, but that doesn’t mean it’s not true. In any relationship, finding a balance between each individual’s needs can be tricky to navigate, and after gay marriage is no different. If your wife prefers to stay at home, but you’d rather go out and socialize, figure out a way to balance those needs, like hosting a dinner or game night for friends at your house.

3 Shut Up and Listen

There’s nothing worse than having a conversation with someone who just seems like they’re waiting for their turn to talk. If your husband or wife has something on their mind, actively listen to what they have to say instead of trying to suggest solutions. There’s a good chance they just need a sympathetic ear, rather than unsolicited opinions that can be misinterpreted and lead to arguments. Find small ways to show that you’re actively listening, though: ask questions and be truly engaged with what your spouse has to say. After gay marriage, actively listen to your spouse.

4 It’s the Little Things

Gay marriage isn’t about grand gestures (although who doesn’t like one of those every once in awhile?). It’s easy to lose sight of opportunities to show affection, appreciation, and love when you get bogged down by everyday responsibilities. Try holding your husband’s hand in public, or giving your wife an unexpected compliment. This may prove even more beneficial to the long-term health of your marriage than any expensive vacation or extravagant gift, since these small gestures show you care and are thinking about your spouse.

5 Don’t Forget to Have Fun

You said “I do” because you love spending time with your spouse, but it’s easy to get caught up in daily routines and obligations. Getting into a rut can be a sure recipe for marital doldrums, so shake things up! Take a weekend trip, go out for a fancy dinner, or check out that new club in town. Try an activity you’re both interested in, but have never done together. This can shake out the cobwebs when things start feeling a little stale, and make memories for both you and your spouse.

After Gay Marriage: Perfectly Imperfect

Even the most supportive, affectionate, and compassionate gay marriage is going to have off days: times when you’re not dealing well with outside stress and take it out on your partner, moments of miscommunication, and instances of wondering why you got into this relationship in the first place. While these techniques and tips won’t eliminate those feelings of insecurity or unhappiness that arise from time to time, they can help build a foundation to weather and overcome those moments.

Any marriage can be messy and difficult at times, but a strong foundation of communication and mutual appreciation of what each partner brings to the relationship can set you and your spouse on a path toward marital success.

Of Interest: Countries that have legalized same-sex marriage: Netherlands 2000; Belgium 2003; Canada, Spain 2005; South Africa 2006; Norway, Sweden 2009; Argentina, Iceland, Portugal 2010; Denmark 2012; Brazil, France, New Zealand, Uruguay 2013; England, Wales, Scotland 2014; Greenland, Ireland, Luxembourg, Mexico, USA 2015. Ireland is the only country to have passed marriage equality by popular vote. Finland passed legislation making same-sex marriage legal by 2017.

Sign Up for our Newsletter

Other Articles to Read

  • Gay Wedding VowsGay Wedding Vows
  • Planning Your Gay WeddingPlanning Your Gay Wedding
  • Wedding Officiant ObservationsWedding Officiant Observations
  • Gay Wedding Officiant TipsGay Wedding Officiant Tips
  • Your Gay Wedding CeremonyYour Gay Wedding Ceremony
SGL|Wedding

3 Comments

  • Reply
    How To Know When A Marriage Is Over - November 12, 2017 at 12:27 pm

    Pretty nice post. I simply stumbled upon your blog and wished to say that I have really loved surfing around your weblog posts.

  • Reply
    Relationship Between Husband And Wife - November 15, 2017 at 11:49 am

    You made some decent points there. I looked on the internet for the issue and found most individuals will go along with with your website.

  • Reply
    Wedding Advice - November 15, 2017 at 12:09 pm

    Thanks a ton for this particular piece of writing. I will talk about it with people I know.

Leave a Reply
Cancel reply

About Us

Smart Gay Life, strengthening the LGBTQ community through news, information and support.
Choose smart. Live well.

Recent Tweets

  • @SmartGayLife August 31, 2017

    5 Fantastic Reasons for a National #Equality Day bit.ly/2ahEyEB #LGBTrights https://t.co/YVRnpQOnqG

  • @SmartGayLife August 31, 2017

    Roam if you want to > A Year of #LGBTQ Community Events: bit.ly/2adkbbE #LGBTtravel https://t.co/eX3dkuDcOG

  • @SmartGayLife August 31, 2017

    #HealthTips > How Older Gay Men Can #AgeWell: bit.ly/2b0iPOV https://t.co/5DnRLKQs0o

Recent Posts

  • Daniel Pillai’s He/She Project
  • Addiction Treatment and the Recovery Process
  • Who Pays After the Devastating Orlando Shooting?

Flickr Feed

Copyright © 2015 Smart Gay Life |